The dead people that you see were only dreamt up by the Fayth and therefore did not choose to be there. The were dreamt up specifically to destroy the dogmatic Yu Yevon and save Spira from another vicious cycle of terror and ruin.
The only place where people can choose to meet their departed loved ones is in the Farplane.
Because of this, Tidus was really really upset when he discovered that Yuna had to sacrifice her life to defeat Sin.
Usually in the Example of Seymore and Auron, there deaths were somewhat unnatural. Then there is Maester Mica that decides to Cling to the living so that he can stop Yu Yevon from destroying the world. All have forsaken the option of being sent
1). Those that are unsent usually start having bitter feelings for the living and become fiends to destroy life.
2). Self-Explanitory: Seymours purpose to being unsent was to give Spira the so-called "release from pain" (and planned this while he was alive) and merge with Sin with Yuna "helping him" The fact that he wanted to "help" Spira, he became an Unsent.
– They get sent to the Farplane.
– They become fiends.
OR
– They become ‘Unsent’, which only happens when a strong emotion binds them to Spira, such as:
Auron’s promise to watch over Tidus,
Seymour’s hatred and wanton destruction of Spira, or
Belgamine’s urge to help new Summoners.
– They get sent to the Farplane.
– They become fiends.
OR
– They become ‘Unsent’, which only happens when a strong emotion binds them to Spira, such as:
Auron’s promise to watch over Tidus,
Seymour’s hatred and wanton destruction of Spira, or
Belgamine’s urge to help new Summoners.
Ah, OK, that’s makes sense now. Well, as much sense as it’s going to make.
Although it would be interesting to try to cheat the system by dying with a strong emotion.
If you pay attention to what Seymour says (I know, its hard considering his whiney bitch voice), you can also pick up little bits here and there that can help explain it all.